Love: 7 golden rules to make your relationship last a long time

Discover the golden rules in love to improve and optimize your pleasure, your sexuality, your confidence and the affection within your couple.

Touch your lover to make your relationship last longer

The sense of touch releases endorphins in both the touching person and the affected person. This hormone promotes well-being. So take the habit of taking each other's hand while walking, touch her cheek by kissing her in the morning. Revive the small gestures of touch that you had at the beginning like a kiss on the ear, a hand in the hair, for example. Adding touch to your relationship will help you form a fortress of love that will make you more united and stronger in times of adversity. It is also proven that united couples are more resistant to infidelity.

To create this type of link, start by supporting your partner as often as possible. You form a team. Keep his secrets intact as much as possible, even if your friends in the office are telling theirs. Except in case of emergency, do not let anything interrupt your moments of intimacy with your spouse. People will leave a message or go back later.

Make a commitment to spend at least 30 minutes a day talking about your days, your goals and your dreams. Build a real friendship for each other. Studies have shown that a couple of people who are also friends promotes a stronger and more "sexy" union. Do not forget to make time for the intimate moments, even if you have to put it on your agenda!

Make small compliments or call your partner spontaneously

Be aware that it often takes several positive remarks to erase a single negative remark. So take the time to compliment your girlfriend on her new shoes or conversely, make a positive note on your new boyfriend's sweater. Take the trouble to call your spouse's office just for a hello and remember to thank often for the help you receive from your spouse and when you do it, do it sincerely and look at each other in the eye.

In doing so, you will not only make your spouse more attracted to you, but you will also make him happier. After all, your story probably started because you appreciate these little things from each other. You will soon realize that it is nice to share these little moments of love.

Work on yourself (read: do not blame your partner for what's wrong)

It is easy to put blame on the other when you feel angry, disappointed, betrayed or stressed. The danger is to think that your spouse must change to make your relationship work.

Trying to get your partner to change puts him on the defensive and makes him see a negative version of yourself. The result? Nobody changes, no one takes the relationship in hand and everyone is unhappy.

The real solution: change yourself. When you become aware of your own weaknesses and seek to see the best of your companion, the magic takes place and optimism takes over. Your partner will feel a lot better because he or she will feel appreciated and not chastised. Both of you will feel more motivated to change the way you do things to bring you more happiness to two.

Learn to relax and change your ideas to foster your relationship

The classic advice that all experts give to singles looking for a soul mate? Be the one you want to attract. The same thing applies in the case of a long-term relationship. If you feel happy or happy, your relationship will be happy too. The better you feel, the better your relationship will be. It will be easier to manage conflicts. Find a relaxing activity that suits you. Whether it's 15 minutes of early morning yoga, a new hobby that helps you let go or cooking classes, positive emotions can only make you happier or happier and you'll experience richer times together.

Be fair and equitable when bickering to solidify your relationship

Conflicts are part of all relationships and sometimes quite healthy. The important thing is how they are managed. A Florida study of long-term couples has shown that being able to resolve a conflict situation with two is a key factor in the success of 70% of couples surveyed. With the right tools and the right attitude, quarrels can become a path to deeper intimacy, a way of showing yourself and others in their true light and of accepting each other in all their vulnerability and wholeness. . Your union can only be solidified.

First, stay away from criticism, confrontation and any hostility. All these attitudes will only fuel the fire. Researchers from the University of California followed 79 couples for more than a decade and found that early-divorcing couples often bickered and often defended. Happy couples avoided verbalizing critical thoughts, kept discussions to a reasonable level and did not use definitive terms such as "never" or "always".

When a chicane bursts, try to change the subject, bring a touch of humor, empathize and show your partner your appreciation for him. Too late? Make a dream come out, get some fresh air and come back to the discussion after you've calmed your minds.

Choose the right moment to talk more seriously with your partner

Do not start a stormy discussion if you are not rested or have not eaten. Fatigue and hunger can cause you to make hateful remarks and escape negative thoughts. Avoid drinking alcohol for the same reasons. Rather, wait for a toast to your reconciliation.

Never try to resolve a conflict situation if you are distracted by something. Turn off the television, move your smartphone away, and shut down your computer. If you are disturbed by an outside factor, postpone the discussion. You can not adjust anything on the go.

Listen more to your sweet half ... 

If you had only one thing to improve to ensure a healthier relationship with your partner? Speak less and listen more. Blame, insults, criticism and blackmail never end well and assure you of a very difficult atmosphere to endure. When the discussion turns into a fight, do not interrupt, wait before offering a solution or defend yourself too quickly.

When it comes to emotions, they must be heard. Acquire your head, rephrase what your spouse tells you to make you understand that you listen to him, react briefly to his words to show him that you respect the feelings he expresses with words. Sometimes all we need to feel closer to someone is to listen to what they have to say.

One final piece of advice: you used to wear a seductive garment in bed to please him? Now, you only put on an old holey t-shirt? Feel free to spice up your look from time to time! Feeling good about yourself will brighten your eyes and sparkle your partner's. You will be exchanging more intimate moments. You know the rest!